What to do when your spouse is not a naturist?


It happens that in a couple, one of the spouses is naturist and the other not. The question of living his naturism then arises. The solution is neither simple nor obvious. Here are some ideas to explore if you are confronted with this dilemma. It generally starts with good communication, respect for differences and excellent listening.

Together, one naked, the other not

The first solution is to live your naturism alone while your spouse/companion remains dressed. This solution presupposes that you are comfortable with your nudity in a textile environment and that your spouse is too with your nudity. It is indeed possible that you are not comfortable naked while your spouse is dressed, or that he/she is not comfortable when you are naked.

In either case, talk about it together. Why aren’t you comfortable, why doesn’t is he/she? The reasons may be multiple, but this often starts with the question about nudity and its meaning. If you tie nudity to sexuality, nothing more Important than continuing to live naturally naked and in doing so to clearly separate nudity from sexuality.

One reason often cited by the textile spouse is that he/she does not find nudity nice to see. Talk! Tell him/her that you feel good naked and that you’d be happy to continue. Also propose to dress from time to time, to balance relationships. It’s all about compromise.

It will also be appropriate to discuss the naturist activities and places, like the holidays, the beach or naked hikes. If they are important to you, you will also have to find a compromise to live your naturism. It is possible to practice naturist activities in the company of other naturists without your spouse joining you and in return for staying dressed for other activities that are to your spouse liking.

Conversion to Naturism

Not easy, but not impossible either. It’s probably the most sensible solution (although, as a reader mentioned, the most sensible option is to compromise and embrace textile activities as well). When you think about it, it’s better to do things together than separately. And if these are naturist activities, it is better than your spouse is also a naturist.

So the question is how to convince a reluctant to become a naturist, even occasionally?· Over the years I have discovered that the reluctance to naturism is more emotional than rational. There are dozens of good reasons to become a naturist. However, they generally produce emotions, felt when one is naked or when seeing other naked people.

One of the emotions often evoked is jealousy. The textile spouse does not support his or her significant other to be seen naked. He/she “belongs to him/her”! Naturism cannot cure jealousy, which is generally a nasty emotion. But practicing naturism together can help obliterate it once and for all, and build trust and respect.

The important thing is to understand and talk about this emotional aspect to your spouse. In a large majority of cases, a stay, even a short one in a naturist campsite or village will kill those emotions felt with nudity. Choose your naturist village well and let things get done on their own. Nudity sometimes needs a little time to be accepted.

Avoid starting with a naturist beach or a resort known for its swinging practices, such as the Cap d’Agde. The beach is often the place that voyeurs choose, and this can put your spouse, at the beginning at least, uncomfortable. The swinging centers send the wrong message. Not that swinging is evil in itself, but it is not naturism in the social sense of the word.

Each one on his side

The last alternative is to live your naturism alone. This may seem sad at first glance, but it all depends on the couple relationship that you entertain. There are indeed couples who are satisfied to practice their activities alone. The crucial point is the sharing.

Sharing experiences and transparency of activities are the master words. If your relationship is based on respect and love, it will only strengthen. It is important to share what you have experienced without hiding anything. It is at this price that a relationship of trust is created and strengthened.

The separation

Unfortunately, there are cases for which naturism is the trigger to separation when none of the three possibilities described previously are working. It is not always the only trigger. I am therefore not going to comment on this aspect of naturism, which is sometimes in the discussions between naturists. However, as in all relationships, there are situations where it is better to continue on the path of life separately.

So is naturism a lifestyle for the couple? Yes, without any doubt. Naturism is a healthy, pleasant and fundamental lifestyle nowadays. It allows you to live respecting others, without judgment and in complete freedom. You should find the right angle of discussion, appreciation, and experimentation. The world needs naturists and naturism. The naked body brings us back to the simplicity of our beings.

Is your spouse not a naturist? Browse together the site of your naturist federation and decide to try it together. You have nothing to lose except your clothes. On the other hand, you will have so much to gain! Start!

Get Naked, Stay Naked, Live Naked and Share the Naked Love!

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  1. Thoughtful article. I have been a naturist since 1998. My wife of forty years will not embrace this. It used to be a wedge between us (and I suppose it still is), but she has, with time, accepted the fact that I only wear clothes when I must. I have given up my efforts at converting her since it only ends in conflict. She bristles when people learn that I am a nudist and assume that she is one as well. At times, I am envious of couples who enjoy nudism together, but this is not important enough for me to end our marriage over. So we peacefully co-exist.

  2. nakedjoel, I can identify with you as I am in the same situation with my wife. I rest as a home nudist with my wife but I like other activities such as gardening nude, hiking, conversing and sharing times with others, I cannot get her to understand this. I sometimes wish that I did have a female friend that I could enjoy time nude with. Hopefully my wife may come around as I will not let this be a road to end our marriage, she means to much to me and she is such a meaningful part of my life.

  3. I’m in this kind of relationship. My wife has body issues with scars she has. She is not comfortable going nude although she will walk through the house occasionally nude. However she has no problem with my nudity. She will even ask me sometimes why I have clothes on. (which is not very often while at home unless having to work in the front yard). We’ve even gone camping together and of possible I’m nude it just kind of works for us.

  4. An interesting and thought provoking article. I can identify completely with the earlier comments. My first wife was as keen a naturist as me. We spent a great deal of time during our 21 years together at many naturist clubs and beaches throughout the UK. After we parted (Nothing to do with naturism) I remarried. My new wife was not a naturist but she assured me that it didn’t bother her that I was. To be fair, she did attend and participate in several visits to naturist events. Unfortunately during the 35 years we’ve been together she has become less keen and we are no longer inclined to do this. I however, am as keen as ever and spend as much time as possible nude at home. My wife does not have a problem with this, although she is noticeably less comfortable if there are other people nearby. I have been unable to convince her that non sexual nudity does not conflict with criminal law in England. (Being “reported” seems to be her main worry). I do give away lots of old unwanted items on the local “Freecycle” on-line groups. Because people are so unreliable about collecting items when thay say they will I always attach a note when I give them my address. I tell them that I maintain a naturist lifestyle, and if they’re in the least bit uncomfortable with that, to text or call me when they are on their way. This ensures that I do not cause any unwanted upset. I have only ever had one bad reaction to that.

  5. My partner of 20 years is not comfortable with being naked where others can see her. I’m a lifelong naturist. I would be delighted if she were to join me in enjoying simple nudity. This difference is in no way a problem as she is fully supportive of me in every way and actively encourages me to pursue my nudist activities – which is mostly gardening these days.
    She is usually the first to mention that I am a naturist when we meet new people. We make no secret of it. I suspect the fact that she tells other people makes it easier for them to accept it.
    While I would love it if she could experience the pleasure and comfort of social nudity she is comfortable with remaining clothed – which is something that I support for her as much as she supports my choices.
    We both believe that it would be inappropriate for one of us to try to force the other to do something against their wishes – it’s all about mutual respect.

  6. I’m on the other side of the conflict here
    After 6 years my husband has been caught with nudist leaflets now the cat us out of the bag you think, but not it’s taken 6 months to uncover all his lies and deciept
    Not only has he signed up and paid membership which he at first denied
    He has been on groups and group walks again which he denied at first
    But he has also got hundreds of photos on the lap top not in with any other photos all in separate folders that don’t readily show
    So I guess my point is how can I trust him if he has been deceitful and lied repeatedly

    • Thank you, Robert. It’s the case of many couples. However, with patience and the advices I’m giving in this article, it’s sometimes possible to change a spouse’s mind and make him/her embrace nudism as we do. Keep faith!

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